I've compared blogging to high school before, but I've been thinking a lot more about it recently and can't help to make the comparison again. I just feel they are too similar. Similar to the Mean Girls layout of the lunchroom, you have your fashion bloggers, your lifestyle bloggers, humor bloggers, mommy bloggers, and fitness bloggers (I'm sure there are more but you get the point). There's the "big" bloggers and the "small" bloggers. The popular bloggers.
When I started blogging, it took me several months to really know what was going on. A month or two before I knew what a link up was, another few tries before I actually linked up correctly. Another month or two before I figured out I was a "no-reply blogger" and fixed it. I was a slow grower. Eventually, I gained a following. I still had a select few blogs that I read fiercely every day, "bigger" bloggers whom I admired and aspired to befriend. I saw that these bloggers all interacted with each other, tweeting, gchatting, texting even, and I wanted to do that too.
I wanted to gain friendship from blogging, I wanted to be their friend. I have realized that this will never happen. Not because they are mean (I still love and read their blogs, and we interact occasionally) but because I realized I am not that person. I have never been one to "fit in" or be "popular." My friends in high school and even college were different. I read Harry Potter, I made good grades, I played all the sports, I was active in school theatre. I did not win homecoming queen, prom queen, or most likely to be anything. I am okay with that.
Only recently did the realization hit me that blogging is just like high school. Even though I'm not disliked or "unpopular" I am not among the cool crowd. Only recently have I connected with other bloggers on a more personal level because I allowed myself to remember who I am, and who I am not. I have gained real friendships with bloggers that are like myself, a little quirky, sometimes awkward, and definitely awesome. Only recently have I realized, it's okay to not be part of the "popular crowd" because in reality, not everyone is popular. But that doesn't mean I am not liked.
Do you feel, as bloggers, we sometimes get caught up in everything and forget who we really are?