Wednesday, October 2, 2013

There is a point, and I'll eventually make it there

Trying to write a blog post when you have nothing to write about is impossible. Scratch that, trying to write a blog post when you have tons of things to write about is impossible. I have all these ideas floating around in my head and they sound great up there but when they get on this proverbial paper, I'm at a loss for words. Ten thousand spoons when all you need is a knife. Or something like that.

My thoughts get jumbled up and don't sound right coming out of my mouth (fingers?). I have this great idea and I save it on my blogger app on my phone as a draft post and  few quick sentences or words. I'm all pumped up about it then when I start working on it later, there is nothing there. Or maybe there is a little something there but I don't love it.

I worry if I'm witty enough, I worry that I'm being too sarcastic in my writing and that it will come off as harsh or rude. I worry that people won't agree with my opinion or thought and then they won't like me anymore.

But that's not the point.

I originally started this blog to document all of the fun things I did (<--that's a joke, I was unemployed and bored) and to keep far away family and friends updated with all the goings-on in my life. I wrote two, maybe three times a week and the content was terrible. Seriously if you want  to make fun of me, feel free to dive in to my archives.

My point is, I didn't start writing this blog to impress anyone. Or to join all the link ups or re-cap all the weekends or to make some awesome friends, but those things happened anyway. And it's awesome. I love blogging and all that it has become, but I know it's changed. I do blog to "impress" or to get affirmation. There. Affirmation. That's the word I'm looking for.

We all need affirmation in our lives or we wouldn't be human. And if you say you don't need to be affirmed or given a good ole thumbs up every now and then then you're a liar that lies. Needing affirmation is human nature, and I actually touched on the subject when I mentioned that my love language was "Words of Affirmation" meaning that I like to have people tell me they love me all the time and that I'm doing a great, and keep up the good work, Kalyn! (Sorry I'm off on a tangent)

I guess what I'm really trying to say here with this whole crazy post is that I'm going to stop putting so much pressure on myself to be liked by everyone. I'm going to write what I want to write and how I want to write it, when I want to write it. Not saying I won't be joining in my usual link ups or posting weekend updates, but if I don't have anything to write about one day, I'm not just going to fill it with fluff to fill space. What's the point in doing something if I'm just half assing it?

This doesn't have much to do with the post, but has always been one of my favorites.
Do you find yourself seeking affirmation from your blog posts? Do you get your feelings hurt when there isn't a good response from a post you really enjoyed?


Jackie said...

I know that sometimes I get bummed if I out a lot of effort into a post and get no response. It is inevitable because as much as I say I'm doing it for me, I'm still putting myself out there in some way too.

Sara Elizabeth said...

I've definitely been feeling the same way! I'll go through phases where I can come up with great content that I'm very passionate about but other days there's nothing. I've also decided to just skip a day if I have nothing to write instead of throwing something together for the sake of having a post.

Allie @ Tales of a TwentySomething said...

You're right. I think we have all been guilty of needing that thumbs up at one point or another. I used to be all "I HAVE TO POST EVERYDAY" and then Brin asked me why and I couldn't give her a good reason. So now, if I have nothing to say, I just take a vacation day. And it's made me realize that you can totes tell when someone is just filling the day with fluff and I usually just skip right over that post.

Betty said...

I think you are on the right track! I know that some posts I think will be really popular aren't, and those that take me just a few minutes to put together are sometimes! And really it all just comes down to what you want to say on your blog...and what you want to document.
Also...I LOVE that quote!!

Melissa Suggitt said...

So true. The whole point of a blog in my opinion is to have fun with it. Nothing to write about? Don't write. Too much to write about. Work on some of it and if you're still not ready to post. don't!

Jay T said...

You hit the nail on the head: it's affirmation. We ALL need/want it and it sucks to not have it! And taking a day or two off when there's nothing to say is totally ok. Quality over quantity! Although I do get a little sad when there isn't a post from you to read!

Autumn @ The Unreal Life said...

I think i definitely get a little deflated when I write a post that I just adore and people don't comment like I expected. I'm glad to hear other bloggers taking the step away from 5 days a week!! With grad school, I just don't have that time. Plus, I want my blog to last. Do you know how hard it is to come up with 5 original ideas for multiple years?!?! ShooT!

Lisa @ Two Martinis said...

It's the worst to write a post that I totally pour my heart into and then get almost no feedback on it - so I feel ya! Affirmation is definitely important, whether we like to admit it or not. Good for you for putting less pressure on yourself!

brooke lyn said...

ain't nothing wrong for wanting a little pat on the back every once in a while :)

Cece said...

The times when I worry most about things like what am i going to write, is it going to be funny enough, will people like it are the times when I am the most blank and it makes me lose confidence. You say your earlier posts were terrible. Terrible for who? I hope you read my most recent post about "small blogs." I'm a small blogger and I don't post every day and I don't do all that big blog stuff. In fact. I've been very uninspired lately but it happens and I've made peace with where I'm at with my blog. You just have to find the right head space for yourself when it comes to blogging. And no, this is not a shameless blog plug; I just really think it might make sense.

Sarah said...

I love this. Really, we all started blogging for OURSELVES. Yes, we wanted to perhaps make some new friends, connect with people in our area, or learn new recipes but the real reason we all started was because WE wanted to and because of that we should continue to keep on with our blogs for us. As an outlet. :)
We all put way too much pressure on ourselves to get the most comments, most followers, most number of posts up a week but if you're stressed and not enjoying it there really is no point.

Thanks for this post today! :)

Tami said...

I feel ya girl. Life is insanely busy lately and I feel like my attention to my blog is suffering and I stress, but then I think, why? I started it for myself to have fun, not to please the people who happen to read it. Write whatever you want. I'll still read.

kristine Jeffries said...

M life is craazy busy to. I just focus on my how to tighten skin and it gets me through :)

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