When I think of the word "domesticated" I think of housewives, stay at home moms, sparkling kitchens, and freshly laundered linens. I think of women who never went to college, who stay at home while their husbands support them. I think of women who are always in the kitchen, who's number one goal is to keep a clean house and take care of her children.
But is that really what domestication is about?
According to the dictionary "domesic" is defined as 1. of or relating to the family or household; 2. fond of life and household affairs; 3. to cause to feel comfortable at home. I've never thought of myself as someone that is domestic or domesticated. I am no Susie Homemaker, I can barely keep enough underwear clean to last me throughout the week and I have been known to re wear the same pants four times in a row to keep from doing laundry.
I will admit to looking at stay at home moms and housewives and thinking less of them. I can admit that I looked down on these women, who chose to give up a career (or to never have one to begin with) and think, "didn't they wan't more out of life?" I can also admit that this thinking was wrong of me. Because they probably look at me, coming home after a twelve hour shift with questionable substances (most likely poop) on my shoes and I'm sure they pity me, thinking "I feel sorry for her, she'll never see her kids."
I realize that there are two sides to every coin, and an argument can be made for both sides of this probably never-ending debate and I can honestly say that both sides have valid points. I can see the benefits of being a "career woman" like having more money which can lead to having a bigger house, better car, or going on more vacations. It can lead to achieving goals you've had ever since you were a little girl, breaking through glass ceilings, becoming manager, CEO, CFO, or owning your own company.
Then there's the other side, the stay-at-home side. The one where you get to see your children grow up and you get to take care of your household, making it a warm and inviting place for your husband to come home to every day. Never having to worry if you've missed out on any milestone your child may have reached that day.
So will I be a career woman or a stay at home wife/mom? At this point I can't give you an answer. I can say that I've put literal blood, sweat, and tears into earning my nursing degree and I can say that it isn't going to go to waste. I can also say that when I think of myself as a mother, I want to be the best mother I can be. I want to be there to hold my child when they cry and to laugh with them and play with them and absorb every sweet moment possible. So, I don't know. I guess we'll cross that bridge when we get there.
Either way, this will probably be me.
What is your opinion on SAHMs vs. Career Women? Did you have a hard time making the decision to be either one?